A to Z Blogging Challenge

B is for...Bad Days...How to Survive (and maybe even make it a good day!)
By Shelly Burke, RN, Author, and Publisher of the Nebraska Family Times 

Having a bad day once in awhile is inevitable. Some days are bad from the start, and some days start out promising and go downhill from there. A bad day can be the result of  a fight with your spouse, fighting kids, bills, illness, a low bank balance, waking up late...the possibilities are endless--and sometimes there is no discernible reason--it's just one of those days. 

Here are some suggestions for getting through a bad day. 

• If you feel your day going downhill, try to stop the slide. Begin with God. One of the verses that comes to my mind when I'm consciously trying to make the day better is "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it!" (Psalm 118:24). When I begin to make a list of my blessings, and the list just keeps getting longer and longer, I'm often lifted out of my bad mood.
• Take a shower, dress at least neatly (despite what might be your desire to wear your grubbiest, most comfortable clothes), put a smile on your face, and make a point of being nice to everyone. 
• Turn on some of your favorite music. Dance if you're so
  
  inspired--even if somebody else is watching!--exercise releases "feel good" hormones.
• Go outside and get some fresh air--even if it's cold, snowing, or raining. The change of scenery may translate into a change of mood.  

Sometimes, however, these "feel good" tips will just make you feel worse. No matter what, it's going to be a bad day. When this is the case, resolve yourself to having the best, bad day, that you can. 

• First, get rid of any guilt. It's ok to have an "off" day once in awhile, as long as you don't do anything immoral or illegal...(it IS ok to do something fattening on a bad day). 
• Next, pick something quick and simple from your to-do list and just do it. Wash a load of towels (they're the easiest to fold), water the plants, clean out a junk drawer (you'll throw lots of junk away!). If you don't have anything quick on your list, choose something simple and write it down so you'll have the satisfaction of crossing it off. Then, forget your to-do list for the rest of the day. 
• Then, indulge in doing things you usually don't take the time to do; call a friend and talk for an hour. Have a Pinterest marathon. Read that stack of magazines that's been on your bedside table for months. Take a nap. Take a long bath. Take a long walk. Eat chocolate...for breakfast. Window shop--in real life or via computer--for a few hours. Scrapbook. Don't cook; ask your husband to bring home supper or order pizza. 
• Finally, spend time with your kids, doing things you're usually too busy to--spend the whole afternoon at the park. Get ice cream. Cuddle while watching movies. Play your favorite games. 

Eventually your bad day will be over--hopefully it will have improved! But if not, at least it's over. Before you go to sleep, think about the things you did to nurture yourself. Resolve to do them more often. Pray for a better tomorrow, and ask God to make you aware of the time you need to spend taking care of yourself. 

In "Lifehacks for Christian Moms", available as a download in May, you'll also find tips for dealing with your husband when he's having a bad day, and your kids when they are having a bad day. If you'd like to be notified of new posts, sign up in the sidebar to the right of this post. 

I'm also doing the A to Z Challenge at Nebraska Family Times where the theme is "Words Matter."  

A to Z Blogging Challenge

A is for...All About "Home is Where the Mom Is" 

by Shelly Burke, RN, Author and Publisher of the "Nebraska Family Times" 


Being a mom is my favorite role in life. My kids are now grown (Cody is 23 and lives in the Kansas City area and Morgan is 21 and is going to college in Colorado) and I find joy in the memories of their growing-up years AND I love knowing and seeing and still being "mom" to them as adults (in fact, I'm putting Easter baskets together for them!) 

Another role that I love is that of "author". I've wanted to be a writer since I was a little girl, and you

can click below to read about the experiences and years that brought "Home is Where the Mom Is; A Christian Mom's Guide to Caring for Herself, Her Family, and Her Home" into being. 

Click here to read "Why I Wrote "Home is Where the Mom Is"" . 

Click here to read "Giving Birth to a Book". 

Click here to read all about  my theme for the A to Z Challenge--Lifehacks for Christian Moms.    

Tomorrow's Post is titled "Bad Day--How to Survive (and Maybe even make it a Good Day!)"    

And click "Follow by Email" in the right hand column, under the Blogging A to Z sunflower graphic to receive all of my posts in the A to Z Blogging Challenge! 
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Blogging A to Z Challenge Theme Reveal!

I will be taking part in the Blogging From A to Z Challenge, beginning April 1st! I'll be blogging every day (except Sundays). On April 1st the topic will start with the letter "A", the post on April 2nd will begin with the "B" and so on. 

This year my theme will be "Lifehacks for Christian Moms". One definition for "lifehack" is: 

1. a strategy or technique adopted in order to manage one's time and daily activities in a more efficient way.

The lifehacks that I'll be sharing include: Beat the Morning Blues, Getting Through a Bad Day, Setting Goals, Prepare for Sick Days, Life Skills to Teach Your Kids, and many more! Many of the posts will be based on my book "Home is Where the Mom Is; A Christian Mom's Guide for Caring for Herself, Her Family and Her Home. Throughout April I'll also be revising "Home is Where the Mom Is" and making it downloadable. 

If you'd like to receive all of the Lifehacks for Christian Moms, sign up on the right side of this page, under "Follow by Email. 

The month will be filled with great tips and hints for every mom, and there will be giveaways and free downloads too! 

I'm also doing the A to Z Blogging Challenge at Nebraska Family Times. 

"Trust in the Lord"

Scripture Memory Challenge 

By Shelly Burke, Editor

The verse we’ve chosen for the February Scripture Memory Challenge is:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

In this verse God has given us a command, and a promise.

The command begins, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.” I am thankful that I do not have to “lean on my own understanding”; so many times I desire something and only realize later that receiving it would not have been in the best interests of me or those around me.

In our own understanding we have just a miniscule snapshot of God’s plan. We are unable to see, in

our own understanding, what is in our future or the future of those around us. God however, is omniscient, all knowing. He knows how the events of yesterday, today and tomorrow will fit together for His good. 

One of my favorite Bible narratives is that of the Old Testament Joseph (found in Genesis 37 and 39-46). In his own understanding Joseph probably could not comprehend why God would allow his brothers to sell him into slavery. But the Bible tells us that Joseph trusted in the Lord and remained faithful to Him through years of captivity; Joseph eventually became the highest ranking official in Egypt and from this position he was able to save his family and many others from starvation during a seven year famine.

Likewise, in our own understanding, we might not be able to comprehend the death of a loved one, the breakup of a marriage, financial hardships, children who stray, or a severe illness or disease. We might not comprehend His purpose this side of heaven, but this is when we “trust in the Lord” and remember His promise of Romans 8:28, which says, “for those who love God all things work together for good…”  

The next part of this passage commands, “in all your ways acknowledge Him”. My study Bible defines “acknowledge” as “Apply what you have learned from the Lord in everything you do.”How? First, thank Him for His blessings and all He has done for you.

Then seek His will through prayer and Bible study. Listen for His still small voice. Study His word. Attend church and Bible class. Apply what you have learned in everything you do—work, play, relationships, finances, parenting—and incorporate Him into every part of your life.

And then the promise: “And He will make straight your paths.” This is very reassuring to me;  some days I’m filled with “what if’s” and questions and doubts about the path I’m on in my life. I can’t see the future to know how the decisions I make today will impact my future, and sometimes I’m afraid to make decisions for fear they’ll be the “wrong” ones. I haven’t bowled in many years but when I read God’s promise in this verse, I pictured a bowling alley with the bumpers (long inflated tubes) in the gutters. Bumpers are often used when kids are bowling as they prevent the bowling balls from going in the gutter, instead bouncing them back onto the “straight path”, the middle of the bowling alley.  When I trust in the Lord and acknowledge Him, He will keep my path straight, “bouncing” me back on the right path when I threaten to go into the “gutter.”

To receive your FREE Scripture Memory Verse Cards, mail your request, with your name and address ($6 suggested donation to cover postage costs) to Nebraska Family Times, 209 27th St. Apt. #13, Columbus, NE 68601).

"Home is Where the Mom Is" New Look and "Blogging From A to Z Challenge"

Writing and publishing "Home is Where the Mom Is" is one of the most satisfying accomplishments in my life (so far!) besides giving birth to and raising my wonderful children. I'd always dreamed of being an author and holding a copy of the book in my hands is the third most thrilling moment in my life; holding Cody for the first time on Nov. 18, 1991 and Morgan for the first time on Dec. 28th, 1993 are THE MOST thrilling moments of course!  

Click on these links to read Why I Wrote "Home is Where the Mom Is" and 
"Giving Birth to a Book". 


But it's time for a change! When I wrote "Home is where the Mom Is" Cody and Morgan were just in grade school! Now Cody has graduated from COLLEGE! (I know, I can hardly believe it myself!) Morgan is a junior at Colorado State University in Ft. Collins, Colorado. 

It's time to update "Home is Where the Mom Is" and make it more reader friendly--especially more busy-mom-reader-friendly. I've had a lot of "mom experiences" since I wrote "Home is Where the Mom Is" and I've talked with so many moms about their experiences in mothering, and I want to share what I've learned. Being a parent is not an easy task at this time in the world, especially a Christian mom raising kids with faith. However, doing this is the most important job moms will ever have. 

Being a mom is still the best experience in my life and I'm so thankful for the blessing of my kids! And I am passionate about encouraging moms in their calling of raising kids. I will never, ever  regret the time I spent with my kids, and I want to encourage other moms to enjoy and cherish every moment of their time with their kids, too, and share a few of the things I (and my mom friends) have learned along the way. 

As I update "Home is Where the Mom Is," the format of the book will change to make it easier to read in the brief moments moms have between their tasks of the day. I plan to write most of it in the form of "life-hacks"; here's what Google says about a "Life Hack"

life·hack

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noun

informal

1. a strategy or technique adopted in order to manage one's time and daily activities in a more efficient way.
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Much of the revised, improved "Home is Where the Mom Is" , will be in the form of lists of bullet points that will give readers easy-to-use, "real life" tips and hints to care for themselves as moms, and manage their family, and their home. 

And that's where the Blogging from A to Z Challenge comes in. During the month of April I will be posting excerpts from the updated and revised "Home is Where the Mom Is; Lifehacks for Christian Moms." I'll be posting a new hack every day, Monday through Saturday, with the entry for each day beginning with the next letter of the alphabet; April first will be "A", April 2nd will be "B", and so on. During April you'll get to sample 26 of the more than 100 lifehacks in "Home is Where the Mom Is; Lifehacks for Christian Moms" and on May 1st the entire book will be available for download! Sign up in the right-hand column of this blog to receive e-mail updates of every post! 

And if you'd like more encouragement, click over to Nebraska Family Times , the monthly regional newspaper of which I'm the editor and publisher. Our mission at the "Nebraska Family Times"  is "to inspire, encourage and motivate readers in their Christian walk." 

I pray that in all of my work with my book, newspaper, blogs and Facebook pages, I touch the hearts of readers, encourage them, and show them God's love and peace. I look forward to hearing from you! 

Scripture Memory Challenge

As the editor and publisher of the "Nebraska Family Times" I invite you to participate in our Scripture Memory Challenge!

Read the details below--and be sure to e-mail or call and request your FREE verse cards!

Nebraska Family Times Verse of the Year!

Along with being the author of the book "Home is Where the Mom Is; A Christian Mom's Guide to Caring for Yourself, Your Family, and Your Home," I'm also the editor and publisher of the "Nebraska Family Times" monthly regional newspaper, with the mission "to inspire, encourage and motivate readers on their Christian walk." 

To encourage you on your Christian walk in 2015, we are encouraging readers to memorize Bible verses. At the end of this post read how you can receive three FREE verse cards of our verse of the year! 


NFT Verse of the Year 2015

By Shelly Burke, Editor

We have chosen Romans 12:2 as the Nebraska Family Times verse of the year. You’ll find a graphic of this verse every month on the Editor’s Letter page, starting next month; I encourage you to cut it out and hang it where you’ll see it frequently. This verse is also the verse for the Scripture Memory Challenge for January. Receive your FREE verse card; see details at the end of this post. 

Do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God,

what is acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2

We are constantly encouraged to conform to this world, by what we see, what we hear, what we read—by everything around us. Sins of the world—what is acceptable and even encouraged in the world—can gradually, without us even realizing it, change our viewpoint until we have conformed to the world, rather than what the Lord commands and expects of us.

How can we be transformed and renew our mind? First we must discern what is the will of God. To do this, go directly to the source—His Word, the Bible. Despite being written several thousand years ago, the Bible provides us with the basic principles to make God-pleasing decisions in any situation. The best way to know His will is to read and study His Word. As you read, study and memorize, the instructions and directions and principles will move from your head…to your heart. You’ll automatically know what is the right thing to do in every situation in your day to day life.

What are some other things you can do to renew your mind?

• Worship. As you gather with others in God’s house, you’ll learn more about Him in the company and with the support of fellow believers.
•  Pray. When you communicate with the Lord regularly, you will become more attuned to hearing His voice, knowing what He expects, and you will feel His leading.
•   Memorize His Word. Several articles in this issue of the Nebraska Family Times emphasize the importance of doing so.

To receive three FREE verse of the year cards (why three? See the Scripture Memory Challenge post) 

e-mail your name and mailing address to shelly@shellyburke.net.